Lately I’ve decided that I just simply do better if my mother is in no way, shape of form, in my life. And lately she’s taken to cyber-stalking me from Arizona.
A few weeks ago, she found my etsy profile. etsy lets you have an empty shop as a buyer, and she fucking found mine. Her Etsy bio said…
That is a really hard case. As it is your own mother, you just can’t report her to the police, i mean you could but i think a lot of people would frown upon on that. But ofc it is your decision. In that case, you maybe should screenshots what you’ve found and write a date under so just in case it you could use this as evidence.
Before blocking her, tell her straight and in a neutral way that you don’t want her to look after your profiles.
Try to ignore and block her on every platform she found you. And don’t respond, don’t give any attention back. Just live as you have lived before. The more you ignore messages, etc. the less material she has to write to you about. No attention - no reaction - no new messages.
Thanks for the input! I suppose I left out a lot of details about the past in my post. But going to the police at this point would not be frowned upon, at least not by anyone who’s opinion would effect me. I left her at 17 because she was abusive (mostly verbally/emotionally) my whole life and on drugs (haven’t seen her since then and assume she still is an addict) and child protective services and police got involved and removed me from the household/revoked her custody of me after I lashed out at a high school teacher and threatened to kill myself.
I’m probably going to be contacting her some way within the week to tell her to please stop.
Its all very frustrating. If you or anyone reading this has advice/similar stories, I’d love to hear it.
It’s so admirable that you share such an emotional story so open. In that case i would recommend you, that yeah, you should take screenshots of the notifications and messages that she started following your blogs etc. and also maybe her profile. Don’t forget the dates (: Just in case as evidence.
The first step would be to clearly tell her that you don’t want her to follow your blogs / whatever and that you don’t want her to contact you at all, except you want to contact her. Whatever suits you, that is your personal thing.
Give her a bit of time, 1-2 weeks, and in case she still don’t stop, you should go to the police and report her.
I am in a simmilar situation. Even though it’s not an family member who cyber-stalks me. I get cyber-stalked by my ex-bf for over 2 months already. It doesn’t affects me anymore, but also my friends and family. This experience encouraged me to start this blog and help people out. Last Tuesday i reported him, btw.
When you want to talk to somebody, i would be always willing to (:
She keeps asking a few aunts and uncles of mine for my number, but I told them I’d appreciate it if they didn’t release that. Luckily they know enough about the situation to respect my wishes.
I hope you stay safe and things get better for you as well. You can always message me if you need anything too :)